BOOK EXCERPT:
Finding
Mr. Eachts Arday
A Pause For Self Care
a. Ponder. It’s that defining moment to think and re-assess before one makes a decision. It is very important not to be caught in the whirlwind of activities that constantly propels you towards various directions without assessing which is the best way to go.
b. Acknowledge your fears. When people look up to you to always make sound decisions especially those that impact the way situations go, anxiety abounds. This feeling is worsened by self doubt. Yet it’s perfectly okay to admit your vulnerabilities.
c. Unify thoughts with actions. It’s common for us to wear that Little Mr/Ms Sunshine mask when facing our stakeholders. You say self affirmations such as “I’m okay,” “I’m perfectly fine,” and “I’m doing well,” yet you’re banging folders on tables, looking distraught and furious. Our own actions betray what we say.
d. Set your limits. It’s easy to forget the boundaries of time in the name of service. Technology has made it worse when one gets connected 24/7. Just a few months back, the buzz phrase was ‘work-life blend.’ With the extended lockdowns, it’s back to ‘work-life boundary’ as we need to really draw the line between how work becomes easily intrusive especially for those working from home.
e. Express yourself clearly. A very crucial step in self care is the ability to express one’s self in words and ways that take away the ambiguity and guesswork. Brené Brown sums it up very succinctly: “Clarity is kind.”
Ⓒ 2020 by Jovenir F. Bataican